I wasn’t a kid growing up thinking, “One day I’ll get an Oscar and make a speech”. That wasn’t on my mind. I want to just do the best work I can do.
Ah, reward, what an amazing motivator. Most successful humans, being basically selfish creatures, are working toward very specific goals.
We are told that failing to have a goal in mind will paralyze our thought processes and will stymie achievement in all it’s forms. This certainly applies to your actual direction in life.
What would happen if the football team was working hard, but didn’t realize the goal was the other way? Quite counterproductive I think. If they didn’t figure it out quickly, they might find themselves not getting to play at all.
Okay then, we really do need a goal to get started in the first place, but what type of goal have you set for yourself? The rich and famous goal is probably one of the most common. All of us have those “if money were no object” dreams. These goals are “What I can gain” types of ambitions.
How about Mr. Sandler here? He has a different type of goal altogether, but seems to be just as motivated by it to achieve great success. I’ll call this “What I can be” goals. It is entirely possible to be mainly interested in the development of your character and skills, and still have the same energy and drive to continually improve. Financial and other successes will follow if you continually improve your personal skills and become the best person you can be.
The philosopher Aristotle said: We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore is not an act but a habit.
Are you going to repeat your character building habits, or just repeat the constant grabbing of what money and fame you can accumulate? What will your life be remembered for?
The website allgreatquotes.com lists this as a Cherokee Saying:
When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced; live your life so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice.
Humor is always part of the best hours in life.
Think about the good old days. Have you ever wondered why the old days always seem to be so good?
I can think of some very interesting times in our past when a lot of bad things were happening. Caring for my wife’s parents before they passed away, early financial hardships, the deaths of close friends who we felt were too young. All these are obviously bad times of life, but what do we remember most vividly?
The good times. Those memories are what we cherish about those people and good times we had doing simple, happy things while financially able to afford little else. Our memory over the years sorts out and prioritizes the good and happy hours, while pushing unpleasant things to the background. This is much more manageable and we can be happier day to day because of it.
What would happen though, if you had no happiness to apply to the process of your mind creating your “good old days” memory set? If everything you had was bad and unhappy, I suppose you would end up with the “bad old days” instead. I don’t think I would like that very well.
It appears that if we make an effort right now to spend more happy, fun times with family and friends, and extend it into the future, our “good old days” would grow into some wonderful long term memories indeed.
Another consideration is the actual, documented health benefits of humor on our everyday wellbeing. A website called holisticonline.com had a great article by Paul E. McGhee, PhD on “Humor and Health“. It explains how humor contributes to health with muscle relaxation, reduction of stress hormones, and immune system enhancement.
According to Proverbs 17:22 in the King James Version of the Bible:
A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.
Fix your spirit with humor! I don’t think you want to be the one with dry bones!
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