“You might never find out that you are useful for all the right reasons – and not all those stupid things that people tell you you’re useful for.”
What are you useful for? I believe most of us haven’t really tried to find our special talents and aptitudes. Being busy with life and making a living is quite distracting. As a result, we tend to believe what others tell us, and in the end spend a large amount of time being jerked about like a puppet on strings.
Being used by others is never much fun. We seem to spend inordinate amounts of time trying to please others, and sometimes people get the impression that you are available for their convenience.
This usually starts with a compliment, telling you how good you are at something, and ending with how you need to do this thing for them. Wanting to please and be liked, we comply and find ourselves in a never ending loop of being used.
To be fair, not everyone is trying to use you, but it is imperative that we learn to detect the signs early so we won’t be taken advantage of so often. Asking one main question will help you spot the users. “What will they stand to gain if I comply with their wishes?” While it is perfectly OK to benefit others with your actions and have a giving heart, we must learn the difference in helping a friend, and being used by someone who doesn’t have any intention of giving back to you in the future.
Users never have time to give anything. It is always about what they can gain, and some just get a charge out of the actual manipulation and control of others they consider weaker than themselves. They seek control of another person for the thrill of that control.
Again the vulnerability is the basic human desire to be liked and cared for. We all like the attention we receive from others, but some of us are so desperate that we fall into every trap set for us by those who seek to manipulate.
Take charge of your life and talents and learn when it is OK to say “No”. Just because you are able to do something, doesn’t mean you MUST do it every time you are asked. The life you have is your own choice. Do favors for those you love and for those who will actually appreciate what you do for them. In time they will reciprocate. That is the basis for a truly rewarding relationship.
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“Everyone has SOMETHING for which everybody else will gladly shell out a ton of money…whether or not they know exactly what it is.”
What is your hidden talent? Many of us seem to spend our entire lives just getting by in the rat race of life with no idea of what we would be best at.
One the things that the great and famous people of history had going for them is that they didn’t have to waste 8 to 10 hours every day just making money to survive. That left them free to be creative, and to find whatever their special talent was, and then proceed.
One way to find out your hidden talent is to ask yourself, “What am I passionate about?” This is not just something you find interesting, but that thing that other people get tired of hearing you talk about. Passion for something is what makes the difference between a hobby, and something you would love doing so much, that being paid to do it is really a sideline. You would do it for free. If you want to make a lot of money, Forget about the money, do what you are passionate about, and money and other forms of success will follow.
Our minds have been conditioned from birth to accept the status quo, and not to dream. Schools are structured to teach us how to make a living, not necessarily how to actually live. Have you ever noticed that the spectacularly successful and famous people are often the misfits who didn’t conform to the strict structure of the classroom?
Henry David Thoreau said: Our truest life is when we are in dreams awake.
It is hard after years of being taught to stop daydreaming, in class, at work, church etc., to feel that is OK to set our imagination free to dream once again.
Eleanor Roosevelt: The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. If these beautiful dreams come from inside us, why have we hidden our inner beauty from view?
Embrace your creativity. One final quote:
Dreaming is an act of pure imagination, attesting in all men a creative power, which, if it were available in waking would make every man a Dante or a Shakespeare.