This first quote was posted by Rachel Ward, who has been so supportive of
the show from the very beginning. Thanks, Rachel!
The Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.
“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear!”
What happens when you see someone you feel good about? Love happens in
various degrees and is not only assigned to your life partner. There are
many people that you feel affection for when you see them approach.
Knowing you are in for a good conversation, that this person likes the
same things you do, or has deep understanding of a similar painful
situation you each have experienced, gives you a sense of love deep
inside. You LOVE to see them coming and want to spend time with them.
This also a has beneficial effect on your body systems and contributes to
a sense of health and well being.
A link to an earlier episode of Daggers Of The Mind that describes these
benefits will be included in the show notes.
But what about hate? What type of reaction do you have when a hated
“Hate is too great a burden to bear. It injures the hater more than it
injures the hated.”
Coretta Scott King
We are all familiar with the effect of stress on the body. We’ve heard
about the ulcers, heart attacks etc that can result from extended stress
over time. The uncomfortable feeling you get when that person you just
can’t stand is approaching causes immediate changes in your chemistry and
you will actually FEEL worse in short order.
While it is natural to not like to be around those who mistreat you,
don’t extend that feeling into actual hate.
Will Smith said:
“Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you
bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will
consume you too.”
Your mental state directly translates into action. You think it before
you do it. The influences of love or hate will be the springboard for
your next move. Who are you going to be? People are programmed to sense
your mood and intentions when you step out into their presence. What will
they feel from you? The harshness of hate, so that they shy away and
avoid you? Or do you speak the language of love and compassion that
nurtures those around you, and makes you healthier at the same time?
Seems like an easy choice to me! How about you?
Actor John Lithgow
“Time sneaks up on you like a windshield on a bug.”
High velocity windshields. The big enemy of flying bugs everywhere. Many
insects can bump into things in mid-flight with few problems, but when
something moving as fast as a car windshield on the highway intersects
their path, the result is, well, terminal.
Whatever your beliefs, there is coming a day when your life will be over.
The older you get, the faster time seems to travel. Your first 20 years
took forever. Your last 20 years are over in the blink of an eye.
In the King James Bible, Psalms 90:10 says:
“The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of
strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labour and
sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away.”
The old measurement of a score is 20 years. You can do the math, but in
the scheme of history, we are all just a flash in the pan.
“Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.”
How are you managing your flash in the pan? What kind of impact is your
life having on others? A friend of mine, Jan, always says that we should
walk a gentle path through life. Being a friend to others and kind in
general will go a long way to fulfillment.
Being famous has absolutely nothing to do with having a wonderful,
meaningful life that benefits others and the world. The number of those
in your close circles has greatly increased, thanks to social media. Be
kind and sympathetic, and help where you can. Sometimes all it takes is
to listen when someone else needs to get something off their chest.
We recently lost our beloved cat, Grizzlie, and since everybody on
Facebook knew about him anyway, an announcement was made of his death.
The outpouring of sympathy was so amazing, and so helpful for my wife.
She is disabled and Grizzlie was a major comfort and companion for her
since I work a late shift at work. I loved the little guy too, and am so
grateful for the sympathy from so many friends.
You’ll never know how much one well placed little word can change the
world. Those close to you can have their lives enriched and fulfilled by
your actions and attention to their well being. This is the ultimate
expression of a life well lived. Use the time you have wisely.
A quote from Barbara Bush:
“At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one
more test, not winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal. You
will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, or a
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regarding excavating, both in the industry and for homeowners too! You
can find them at inthedig.com. A link to the episode will be included in
the show notes.