Amelia Earhart, Aviation Pioneer
“Never interrupt someone doing something you said couldn’t be done.”
In the 19th century. It was thought by experts that going at speeds of over 30 miles an hour on railroad trains would induce suffocation. I am assuming that this was because the normal force of outward breath was less than the pressure of air rushing by at high speeds. This actually is logical in the absence of experimentation. I am assuming the only persons who had gone faster were those who had fallen from great heights, and they weren’t talking.
Later it was proven to be just so much rubbish, and now we travel much faster with no ill effects other than the occasional bug on the windshield.
Sailing past the edge of the world that was thought to be flat, crossing the sound barrier, reaching the moon, and a myriad of other amazing things were once thought to be impossible, but humans surpassed their fear and reached these milestones, and lived.
Humans who are less brave have a long history of predicting dire consequences when others are attempting something they are too afraid to try. Those who spend so much time predicting doom and gloom are not going to accomplish much. Those who quietly experiment and work toward that “unreachable” goal, will have much more success. Remember, bravery is not the absence of fear, it is being afraid and pushing through that fear to accomplish the goal.
President of the United States, John Quincy Adams said:
“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.”
Don’t discount the value of discovery. Many of us are afraid to try things because we don’t know everything about the subject. It actually has nothing to do with being an expert. It doesn’t mean it can’t be done. It only means it hasn’t been accomplished YET. Learn what you need along the way, once you have set that theoretically unreachable goal.
Don’t listen to those who know it can’t be done. They may have had the ability to innovate educated right out of them. You believe it can be learned and accomplished. Go for it.
“The greatest obstacle to discovery is not ignorance – it is the illusion of knowledge.”
Daniel J. Boorstin
Samuel L. Jackson, Actor
“What kills me is that everybody thinks I like jazz.”
When humans meet each other, they feel the need to put others in a box for their own comfort. Stereotyping is something that we invent on our own. The fewer boxes we have to slot others into, the easier it is for us. Unfortunately, this makes it much harder for those we stuff into those boxes.
According to Dictionary.com, a stereotype in culture is defined as: A too simple and therefore distorted image of a group.
Believing that all old people are a certain way, all young people think this, all of a particular race have this habit, or rich people are all waiting to victimize any poor person that is out after dark, is simply wrong.
Why not meet someone and reserve judgement until the new person has proven what they REALLY are? It is a lot harder than you think to find two people who are exactly alike.
I was raised in a family with 5 boys, and no girls. One would think being raised in the same environment with the same parents would cause us to be identical. Not true. First of all, we each have a different turn to our personalities, and birth order has a lot to do with different pressures that shaped our lives and attitudes. Some live in town, some in the suburbs, and I like living out in the country. We have many different interests, and find that when one of us encounters a problem, we know who is best in a particular area, and we are each ready to listen to the expertise of the other.
In the real world, I don’t like being told what I am thinking or what my value system must be because of what I appear to be. “don’t judge a book by it’s cover” is really good advice in this case. Read the person over time and learn what they are really like. Don’t let your preconceived notions box them in and don’t attempt to force them into behaviors they find alien, just to make yourself more comfortable.
There are so many variations in thought and experience that new people can’t help but be interesting if you are open to listen and learn about them. The people I find the most interesting are those who have had the most different lives than what I have lived.
How boring would life be if everyone were just like you, or at least could fit into the few little categories we each have created in our minds to keep everything nice and tidy. It’s only so our ways of thinking won’t be challenged by meeting someone who behaves differently than we think they should.
Let’s let everyone be who they really are, and let them show us themselves. Don’t try to make it up for them. Let them be who they are.
A final quote:
“Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they’re alive and human.”