This first quote was contributed by my wife, Dee Holbrook.
Faith Hill, Country Music Superstar
“I don’t know why ‘happy’ can’t be a story.”
Most checkout lines in your local stores have them. People subscribe to get them, and there are entire TV shows dedicated to propagating them. Enough people want to hear them that millions are made. All those who want a piece of the business have to do, is publish bold faced lies.
I just noticed this week that for probably the 20th time, that Faith Hill and Tim McGraw are fighting and getting a divorce. It’s going to get ugly. The expressions on their faces tell the whole story. You believe this….. Right?
Ms Hill spoke the words in our first quote when asked in an interview about their marital troubles. Since they weren’t having any, she wondered why the only thing that was newsworthy had to be bad.
That is a good question. How is it possible that so much money and time could be wasted on information that is clearly known to be completely false? The people who buy tabloid magazines know what they are getting. What is the attraction?
I really think it is because many people want others who have a better life than they do to fail miserably. That way they can feel better about themselves without having to do anything to improve their own lives.
We lose so much by hoping for the failure of famous people instead of finding out what is actually working for them, and trying to learn from it and apply it to our own lives. The old fashioned hero doesn’t exist anymore. Anyone who seems to be doing great is somehow a threat instead of an example.
Sure, there are lot of famous people who fail, but there are a lot of us mere mortals who fail as well. It’s just a lot more public with celebrities.
Two Quotes from Actor Kevin Bacon
“I want to see the numbers that prove that show-business marriages are any less successful than other marriages. It’s just very public when they fail.”
“Part of being a man is learning to take responsibility for your successes and for your failures. You can’t go blaming others or being jealous. Seeing somebody else’s success as your failure is a cancerous way to live.”
Dictionary.com has the secondary definition of cancer as “any evil condition or thing that spreads destructively; blight.”
Things would be so much better if we could get rid of the blight of lies that spreads just like cancer. Obviously they have freedom of speech to publish any lie they want to. What makes it go so well for them is the fact that people are willing to shell out large sums of money to get this kind of trash.
Be constructive instead of destructive. Your life and those around you can be so much better if you will only make it so. Those who spend their time wanting others to fail as a substitute for their own failures aren’t going anywhere. Let ‘happy’ be your life story.
Jennifer Lopez, Actress and Singer
“My mom always told me that if you work hard, you can achieve anything. And it’s true. It’s one of the truest things ever.”
It’s easy to look at famous people and say that if someone gave you a chance you could be great too. I’ve heard this a lot. My response is that if they did what they did, they would have what they’ve got.
It’s like seeing a house that a skilled builder made, and somehow expecting that doing half the work the builder did would achieve the same result. Sorry, but that’s not going to happen. We all would love to get something for nothing. It is just basic human nature to want things to be easy instead of difficult. We make our mistake when we assume the fame achieved by others was a lot easier than reality.
We didn’t see all the work it takes to be an overnight success. Sometimes it takes decades of grueling labor to be suddenly discovered and elevated to stardom. The key to discovery is very simple. Just don’t quit.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow said,
“Perseverance is a great element of success. If you only knock long enough and loud enough at the gate, you are sure to wake up somebody.”
Contrary to the lazy tendencies of the average human being, we have to keep plugging away at it until we achieve the success we desire, or die trying. If you aren’t dead yet, you should still be going for it.
Now working hard doesn’t mean that you work dumb. Do your homework and research what you are endeavoring to accomplish, set your goals and launch. You are really much better than you think you are. Set aside your fear and take that first step, then the next step and then the next. Concentrate on each step in turn, and you will look back a year from now and be surprised at how far you’ve come.
If you think, “I can’t do that!” Realize this is only something you haven’t accomplished YET. Study and learn about the steps to reach your goal, learn them, start taking them and don’t stop. Thinking you can is not magic, but it is important because if you don’t think you can, you will never even try. Your failure is then assured.
A quote by Thomas Edison
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
It’s time to roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty. Work hard and work smart. Never give up your dream.