Robert Dallek & Ellen Goodman -DOTM050

Robert Dallek, Historian


“Don’t be intimidated by people who seem to be experts. Hear their points of view and get their judgements. But at the end of day, you’ve got to make a judgement because it’s not their life that’s going to be affected so much as your future.”


Decision time. Something big. Something momentous that you can’t avoid, and you must choose well. Consequences, good or bad are in the offing, and at this point you really wish you could see the future, or wish someone else could for you.

At this point, we look for others, hopefully expert others, who can help us navigate the rough waters ahead.


As I have mentioned before on Daggers Of The Mind, there is rarely a shortage of people who are willing to tell you what to do, and they have a variety of reasons for wanting to do so. Some are noble, some are not so noble.


You must be just as careful choosing whose advice to listen to as you do making the momentous decision itself.


Knowing who you can trust in advance is what makes the difference. Know who would care enough to steer you correctly, and who would sell you down the river just to feel a little superior, thus feeling better about themselves.


If you can find a person who cares and is also an expert, you really have something there. Unfortunately, even when you do your homework and think you know someone, you can be blindsided by a trait they had that you didn’t see. If that happens, just do damage control where it is needed and get away as fast as you can. Don’t agonize about it. They make their own decisions and live with their own consequences. All you can do is start from here.


When it comes down to the rubber meeting the proverbial road, you choose your own path. Get all the expert advice you can, but don’t have paralysis by analysis. Get good info, and counseling if you can. Then launch. You can do this.


A quote from Caroline Kennedy:


“When you make the right decision, it doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks.”





Ellen Goodman, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist


“There’s a trick to the ‘graceful exit.’ It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over — and let it go. It means leaving what’s over without denying its validity or its past importance to our lives. It involves a sense of future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, that we are moving up, rather than out.”



Well, it’s time to make a graceful exit. This is episode 50 of Daggers Of The Mind. It is also the final episode.


This is my first podcast, my baby. I have learned so much about how to podcast, and also how not to podcast. I still think this show is great, but it must make way for new opportunities and possibilities.


I would like to thank all those who didn’t laugh, and supported me in starting podcasting in the first place. There is a core group who also listened to every episode, either from the beginning, or went back and listened after discovering the show somewhere in the middle.


I have discovered the magic that is missing in Daggers Of The Mind, and that is in the person of my wife, Dee. She is delightful and after 32 years of marriage, still my best friend and the love of my whole life.


Dee has a spontaneity and charm that I lack in the formal delivery of this show. After a few episodes of The WV Podcast, I can see just how valuable that is by the response we have received. I need to stop Daggers Of The Mind in order to put more time into The WV Podcast.


There is also the matter of voice over work and writing for publication that I have been neglecting.


Please don’t stop thinking deeply as you go through the rest of your life. As I have said before, every person you meet knows something you don’t, and you know something they don’t. Please continue to learn from those around you and never stop.



A quote from Mahatma Gandhi:


“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.




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